Society constantly bombards us with messages telling us to get what we ‘deserve’. We reinforce it by saying, ‘That’s not fair. You deserve better than that.’

But what do we really deserve?

Everyone wants to be loved - especially when we feel most unlovely. As a counsellor, I regularly sit with people and hear the longing of their heart to be loved. Most of us wonder whether anyone could love us if we let them see the real us.

Ever asked an angry person if their anger is justified? They almost always say yes.